Excuse #4:
I guess this one is mostly about not feeling quite whole/having self-doubt. Right now, I don't have a lot to offer.
1. I have some debts to pay off. Divorce isn't exactly cheap and child support hasn't been steady. I am scraping by some months.
2. I am living with my mom and step-dad, which isn't something I feel like explaining to a potential partner (just the internet world here - whole other post).
3. Giving my time isn't even easy. One of the most productive blocks of time for working is in the evening after the kids are in bed. The rest of my time is devoted to them.
4. It is tough to have meaningful telephone conversations when the kids are always getting into something or bickering in the background. If it is difficult to talk to my friends that are moms, how would it work with a guy that I am interested in?
5. Being a single mom is exhausting and leaves little energy for anything else.
I could probably come up with a long list, but basically it comes down to the fact that I would like someone very special or nobody. I don't feel like I have a lot to share or the ability to attract the right guy at this time, so I'd rather be alone.
4 comments:
I think you should take all the time you need. I don't think people should jump into relationships - but I don't think there should be some sort of timetable either. A single parent of two young kids...it's hard enough to find time for one's relationship when you are in a relationship - much less start a new one.
With that said, you deserve every happiness and time for yourself. I believe things will happen when/as they're supposed to happen.
Excuses, Excuses, to bad we can all comeup with them ;-)
I can't imagine. I have a single friend who has sons, but they are teens, so she has more free time for dating. It must be so hard when your kids are little.
Dearie, you have A LOT to offer when the time is right. None of those things are deal-breakers when dating but it has to be on your terms.
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