My ex rarely wore ties, but I have always found them a little attractive. I must admit that these take the cake:
Cake Ties
A post that is just in time for father's day. It kind of makes me wish I knew how to create with fondant. Then again, my father passed away and I am without husband now. That means I should get a break buying gifts right? No...
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
Tuesday, June 08, 2010
Lexi & Jordan
Monday, June 07, 2010
Fighting for Moms
Before I start, I need to say that this post has nothing to do with my ex-husband or lots of great fathers….
The number one reason, that my cousin’s divorce has stressed me out and turned me off of men is the custody battle. In California, there seems to a huge movement to view fathers as equally capable of taking care of kids (which I know that quite a few are). Like lots of ideals, the drive to force this equality often comes at the expense of people who don’t deserve to be penalized. In this case, it is the mothers. This topic really gets my blood boiling. While I can appreciate the role of a good father, I can’t stand the fact that great mothers have to give up 50% or more custody of their kids. I mainly see it as a way to rip out a mother's heart. Many men seem to fight for custody so that they don't have to pay child support. I wish California judges & lawmakers would wise-up. Here are some reasons:
**What does it take to make a baby? For a man, it simply involves sex during a fertile time. I am guessing that most men don’t even have baby making on their mind during this act. In fact, they do it hundreds of thousands of times without resulting in a baby. For a woman, it involves sex, pregnancy (9 months of discomfort and often many horrible symptoms), and many sleep interrupted nights to feed the baby (usually a task mainly handled by moms).
I found this interesting quote:
Mothers are fonder than fathers of their children because they are more certain they are their own. ~Aristotle
There is no question for mothers, who have about 9 months of carrying the little guy or girl. The bonding begins quite early for moms.
**What about the number of possible off-spring? Men are physically capable of producing 100s of babies in their life time. Average women can only reproduce during an approximately 20 - 25 year span and at most have 5 – 8 babies. (Mrs. Duggar is not normal.) Most women in the US will have 1 – 3. For great moms, they become the most valuable people in her life. I have learned that it is NOT easy to share them with anyone including grandparents, teachers, friends, etc.
I can also come up with lesser reasons why the bias should favor moms…
**Does equality in parental duties really exist? How many studies have shown that even when there are 2 working parents, the woman still does the majority of the housework and parenting tasks? I am not saying that men can’t do it, just that mothers tend to go out of their way to make sure things run smoothly while many men are happy to step back. I have been told by quite a few divorced fathers here in California (that have 40% or more custody) that they didn’t do nearly as much as they do now. …hmmm
**What about adding the little touches that mom's usually handle? I can’t count how many times I have seen a cute little kid with mismatched clothes and messy hair and realized that they were with their dad that day. I am not going to say that kids must look cute all the time, but they should be put together most of the week. Dressing for success is important for school too. People are treated according to how they present themselves. Quite a few men don’t seem to think that this is worth the effort. Let’s face it, dressing kids often involves an argument and so does brushing girls’ hair. I know this seems like a lame reason, but it used to really bother me when I saw what my sister looked like after spending the weekend with my dad.
**Is it even what the kids want? Most people I know have a closer bond with their mothers. I would like to know how many people out there would have picked their fathers if their parents split up while they were young.
I am not suggesting that kids shouldn't spend time with their dads. A good or great father is a wonderful thing for a kid to have. I just think that 50% is way too much. If you agree and you are a woman, avoid divorce in California. If you are a man & disagree, I guess this is the state for you.
Anyway, my arguments are not well though-out. This is mostly an emotional response to seeing the agony of a great mom (my cousin) who has to fight to keep her kids when her ex is anything but a good father.
The number one reason, that my cousin’s divorce has stressed me out and turned me off of men is the custody battle. In California, there seems to a huge movement to view fathers as equally capable of taking care of kids (which I know that quite a few are). Like lots of ideals, the drive to force this equality often comes at the expense of people who don’t deserve to be penalized. In this case, it is the mothers. This topic really gets my blood boiling. While I can appreciate the role of a good father, I can’t stand the fact that great mothers have to give up 50% or more custody of their kids. I mainly see it as a way to rip out a mother's heart. Many men seem to fight for custody so that they don't have to pay child support. I wish California judges & lawmakers would wise-up. Here are some reasons:
**What does it take to make a baby? For a man, it simply involves sex during a fertile time. I am guessing that most men don’t even have baby making on their mind during this act. In fact, they do it hundreds of thousands of times without resulting in a baby. For a woman, it involves sex, pregnancy (9 months of discomfort and often many horrible symptoms), and many sleep interrupted nights to feed the baby (usually a task mainly handled by moms).
I found this interesting quote:
Mothers are fonder than fathers of their children because they are more certain they are their own. ~Aristotle
There is no question for mothers, who have about 9 months of carrying the little guy or girl. The bonding begins quite early for moms.
**What about the number of possible off-spring? Men are physically capable of producing 100s of babies in their life time. Average women can only reproduce during an approximately 20 - 25 year span and at most have 5 – 8 babies. (Mrs. Duggar is not normal.) Most women in the US will have 1 – 3. For great moms, they become the most valuable people in her life. I have learned that it is NOT easy to share them with anyone including grandparents, teachers, friends, etc.
I can also come up with lesser reasons why the bias should favor moms…
**Does equality in parental duties really exist? How many studies have shown that even when there are 2 working parents, the woman still does the majority of the housework and parenting tasks? I am not saying that men can’t do it, just that mothers tend to go out of their way to make sure things run smoothly while many men are happy to step back. I have been told by quite a few divorced fathers here in California (that have 40% or more custody) that they didn’t do nearly as much as they do now. …hmmm
**What about adding the little touches that mom's usually handle? I can’t count how many times I have seen a cute little kid with mismatched clothes and messy hair and realized that they were with their dad that day. I am not going to say that kids must look cute all the time, but they should be put together most of the week. Dressing for success is important for school too. People are treated according to how they present themselves. Quite a few men don’t seem to think that this is worth the effort. Let’s face it, dressing kids often involves an argument and so does brushing girls’ hair. I know this seems like a lame reason, but it used to really bother me when I saw what my sister looked like after spending the weekend with my dad.
**Is it even what the kids want? Most people I know have a closer bond with their mothers. I would like to know how many people out there would have picked their fathers if their parents split up while they were young.
I am not suggesting that kids shouldn't spend time with their dads. A good or great father is a wonderful thing for a kid to have. I just think that 50% is way too much. If you agree and you are a woman, avoid divorce in California. If you are a man & disagree, I guess this is the state for you.
Anyway, my arguments are not well though-out. This is mostly an emotional response to seeing the agony of a great mom (my cousin) who has to fight to keep her kids when her ex is anything but a good father.
Friday, June 04, 2010
Loving Vi-Carrie-ously
Since I am still pro-romance and mushy love, I have decided to just enjoy chic flicks. In light of that… Could there be a better time for the latest Sex In the City movie to come out? I think not! I have already seen it twice, which is really saying something since I rarely see any movies at the theater, especially non-kid ones. I can probably count about 5 movies I have seen over the last 4.5 years.
I know some people were not impressed with Sex In the City 2, but I love it because:
I know some people were not impressed with Sex In the City 2, but I love it because:
2. The gay wedding only further goes along with why I support gay marriage – amazing weddings that would do wonders to boost the economy. Talk about over the top...
3. I can’t stop singing, “If you liked it then you should have put a ring on it!” I may have just become a fan of Liza Minnelli.
4. I am a huge sucker for the Middle East. I was afraid that it would be more Morocco than Middle East, but they pulled it off beautifully (hollywoodish of course). Now, I want to go back for a visit. I am also dying to go to Morocco, but that has been a fantasy for a while and is un-related.
5. The wild fashion has made me want to go into a shopping frenzy. To be honest, there were LOTS of outfits that I did not like, but those probably inspire me to go shopping too. Perhaps, I should just admit that I like shopping for clothes. Maybe someday I’ll have money for that kind of spending.
6. The men in the movie are hot. I have always loved the talk dark & handsome look that BIG and Aidan so easily qualify for in different ways. Samantha’s two flings are pretty HOT too.
7. I don’t have any friends out here and no real desire to make any, but it is so fun to think about hanging out with the girls/long time friends. Maybe I need to take a trip so I can hang out with one of my old friends. Then again, I have a good one planning a vacation here in July.
8. The movie is a nice escape away from some of my stressors. Once in a while, I love movies that take your mind off of your own life.
I guess I’ll end the list there. Eight is an odd stopping point, but those just came flowing out. To add more to the list, I would have to really think and it is Friday. Plus, I have been working way too hard.
For now, I will leave the love life to Carrie and other characters in movies. Unless of course, the stars align and I get hit on by….
Or even…
Dream on, right?
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)