One of the most difficult things about divorce is telling everyone the news. In general, I just don't bring it up. I've tried to share the news with some friends and family. When it comes to acquaintances though, I can't seem to throw it out there. It seems to start a conversation that shocks and saddens those around me. This is one of those times when I wish a busy body would spread it around for me. Here are a few of the comments I've heard:
...But, you have such a beautiful family.
Why? He loves you and the kids so much.
God hates divorce because it breaks up the family.
I bet he’ll win you back after a year.
That tall gorgeous guy?
You’ll find somebody and get married again soon.
Are you on birth control? (by an older man, who I am not comfortable discussing these things with)
It is good to do it while the kids are so young.
Couples need to wait until they have been married for twenty years. It gets easier after that.
...But, you two work so well together.
That is SOOOOO shocking. I just can't believe it.
I should say that most friends have said, "I am sorry to hear that. Is there anything I can do to help you?" I know it isn't easy hearing news like that, which is probably why it is difficult to share it. I am confident that my decision is the right one, but I know it affects more people than just our immediate family. I also feel sorry for everyone else.
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