Yesterday, I got a call from a colleague (she does marketing for a rival firm) asking me how I handle it all. She has a 3 year old and the pressures of work, a child, and home are too much. She wanted to know why I don’t appear to be stressed out and insane. I started laughing because just that morning I had gotten mad at my husband for not helping enough (despite the fact that he is feeling under the weather and works a million hours). …So, yes, it is hard and I am not always calm.
We had a long talk about this topic and realized there are some differences. I have stopped traveling for work, because I don’t want to and I don’t have anyone to take care of Lexi during the evenings and weekends. Her mom takes care of her son when she travels. Neither of us stay late at the office although we take work home to do after the little ones are asleep. My company is not scrambling for work, so I only pursue great projects. Both of us believe that spending quality time with our little ones is a top priority, which means that everything else comes in last.
While both of us wish we could make everything with our little ones, work, and home perfect, it is just too tough. Our main difference is that she beats herself up and kills herself to live up to her high expectations and I usually do what I can and live with it. Sure I am stressed that my desk is piled high with work and that there is some clutter on the kitchen bar at home, but Lexi is happy and we’ll all live. Besides, nobody is perfect, right?
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Going to Cali this weekend!! We're you the one asking me about the government grants website? Here it is..Here ya go..
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